This past weekend in Austin, TX, I got married to the most beautiful, kind, smart, loving, sexy and sweetest person I have ever met. I can’t even begin to express in words how I feel but I will try my hardest. I feel like the luckiest man on the planet and I have never felt so passionate about moving forward in my life with someone. I find myself thinking how life will be 5, 10 and even 20 years out. The truth is that I have no idea what will happen but I do think we will be in deep love forever, will both be financially independent in our 40’s and I think this is just the beginning of a perfect life. Sounds cheesy I know, but it’s just how I feel right now about it. I am dedicating this post to my new wife and hopefully our future children will read this one day.
A Little History
I proposed on New Year’s eve just this past year in New Orleans. You can click that link to read the whole story about it but to give you a quick summary: We met about 8 years ago and were friends for 5 and half years before we connected romantically. There was always chemistry between us and our bond was inevitable. For the past two and a half years we have been together and loved every minute of it. We have traveled together, seen amazing music shows, and have lived a really laid back yet fun life so far. I am really looking forward to the future.
Why Did We Plan The Wedding So Soon?
We scheduled the wedding date only 5 and half months after the proposal. Yes that is crazy fast and ideally we wanted to schedule it for the summer time but if you are familiar with Texas then you will know that it is just too darn hot to do a wedding during the summer months plus we wanted an outdoor wedding. After summer would have been more ideal but we both thought that was too long of a time to wait. At this point, we are both in our 30s and we decided there is no point in being engaged for a long time. Plus we both really want to begin our married lives and begin to prepare for a brighter future both financially and personally. So eventually we made the decision to move it up to May and here we are. It was quite hectic planning a wedding in such a short period of time and we did go through a few periods of stress however it was well worth it as you will see below. Luckily, my wife’s friend was previously a wedding coordinator and she helped us through the whole process free of charge. We lucked out on that one for sure as she knew exactly what to do every little step of the way.
The Wedding Morning
Believe me when I say that the anticipation of waiting for your actual wedding day grows tremendously strong the closer you get to the day. The wedding was not until 6pm however I woke up at 6am because I could not sleep anymore just thinking about the day. I had butterflies in my stomach all day, could not eat and was feeling overwhelmed with thoughts of how the day would go. I eventually forced myself to eat and paced anxiously until it was time to get dressed. On top of that, after having a whole week of sunshine the weather decided to turn on us and rain down all day. I am a pretty laid back guy so I quickly accepted that if it rains on our outdoor wedding, then so be it! The good news is that we had prepared for any chance of rain by having huge tents/canopies setup at the venue. Fortunately my family was with me all day which helped the day go by faster. Eventually I got dressed and head out to the venue a few hours early so we could do “first look” photos. First look photos is when you get to see the bride for the first time in her wedding dress prior to the actual wedding ceremony.
As I was driven to the wedding venue, the rain came down harder and I couldn’t believe we were in the middle of a down pour. All I could think about was if my soon to be wife was stressing out over it. My nerves at this point were stronger than ever. I honestly do not recall ever feeling this way in my life. It was not bad nerves though, it was more a feeling of excitement and anxiousness and not knowing what my bride was going through. Shortly after, the photographers began setting us up for the “first look” photos which consisted of myself looking in the opposite direction of where the bride would come in from. The plan was for my bride to tap my left shoulder and then I would turn around and take a look at the beauty I was getting ready to marry. Two professional photographers were setup in the front and back of us to capture this moment.
As I stood there waiting for the tap on the shoulder I could not help but be super emotional about what was happening. It was almost like being a kid on Christmas morning or something but multiply that by 10!! The tap came and I slowly turned around. Holy Cow!!!! I could not believe what I was looking at. My bride stood there in her wedding dress looking the most beautiful I have ever seen her before. My eyes immediately teared up as did hers and we gazed at each other for a few seconds before we hugged and kissed. I honestly had no words for about 30 seconds after that. As a matter of fact, the first words out of my mouth were “I am speechless”. I’m sure the photographers got a kick out of this and captured some really good pics. Unfortunately it will be about another week before the pics are ready for us to see. After this photo session my butterflies went away and I felt a lot better. I think it was a really good idea to do the first look photos and we both agreed the day was perfect, rain or shine!
Shorty after we prepared for the ceremony. The moment we have been waiting for was just a few minutes away. The rain continued to fall as I stood underneath the canopy with the minister and the multitude of family and friends behind me. 160 people in fact. It was quite a scene and it all felt very surreal. Call it a miracle, luck, or a sign from the gods but just when my bride was scheduled to come out of the house to do the final walk up the aisle with her father, the rain stopped, the sun came out and the rays of sunshine gleamed down upon us. It was truly amazing!!! As she walked up my emotions were in full steam again and my eyes watered up yet again. Then as she finally reached the altar we looked at each other and knew all was well. We had reached this pivotal moment together and were literally only a few minutes away from being husband and wife.
The ceremony was very short and we intentionally planned it that way. The minister who also happens to be my cousin was young, energetic and funny which turned out to be a real crowd pleaser. Overall, the ceremony itself at the altar was probably just a tad bit under 10 minutes long. We said our quick vows, placed our rings on each other and locked in the kiss of marriage. The crowd exploded and tears of joy were all over the place as we walked down the aisle. It was a truly remarkable experience and will probably come down in history as the most memorable day of my life.
The next 3 hours were spent eating amazing food and drinking lots of alcohol. Well at least the guests were drinking lots of alcohol. My new wife and I spent most of the time trying to have brief conversations with everyone, dancing and enjoying this precious evening together. We could not have asked for a better wedding. As a matter of fact, we had multiple people tell us it was the best wedding they have ever been to.
How Much Did The Wedding Cost?
Well this is a personal finance blog after all right? And you already know how much money I have because of my net worth posts so I figure I might as well let you know how much the wedding was. Overall with rings included, dinner expenses and all other random costs that we incurred because of the wedding the costs were right about $36k. I don’t know about you but that is a LOT OF MONEY!! Luckily, we did not have to pay for all of that. My beautiful wife’s parents stepped up and paid a big chunk of that to help out. I am truly grateful for them doing so and they wanted to help. After all, my wife is their only daughter and they too have probably dreamed of this day for her. You will see a significant drop in my net worth on my next net worth update for May so keep an eye out. 😉
When and Where Is The Honeymoon?
Time to party!!!!!! The honeymoon is the best part right? Ha, well not to be a debby downer or anything but we decided to postpone the honeymoon until September. Why you ask? Well planning the wedding in 5 months was no easy task and we did not want to stress out about planning a honeymoon also during that time frame. We are also trying to be somewhat money conscious now that the wedding is over and our plans to become financially independent means that we need to at least try to save money right? By going in September it will allow us to save some money on travel costs as well as give us the much-needed more time to plan the honeymoon. Right now we are leaning on going to Costa Rica for about a week. In the next few weeks we will be planning the honeymoon and I will let you know in my May net worth update where we decided on.
And that my friends is the story of my wedding. I got married!! There is now a Mr and a Mrs Cash Flow Diaries! I have never been happier then I am right now!